Khutbah by Sheikh Waleed

§     The Virtues of Visiting One Another for the Sake of Allaah

The Prophet Muhammad (SAS) said that Allaah (SWT) said, “Indeed My Love will be given to those who love one another for My sake, those who visit one another for My sake..”

The Prophet (SAS) said, “When a person goes to visit his brother, an angel will pray for him and say, ‘May you be blessed and your steps be blessed and may you have a place in Paradise.”

§     Loving to host guests is a quality of the prophets and messengers of Allaah

Abu Bakr (RA) used to tell ‘Umar (RA), “Let us go visit Umm Haani’. The Prophet (SAS) used to visit her.”

§     Being Hospitable to One’s Guests is a Sign of Faith

The Prophet (SAS) said, “Whoever believes in Allaah and the Last Day should be hospitable to his guests.”

§     Hospitality to one’s guests applies to Muslims and non-Muslims.

§     Raise your children to be hospitable towards guests

§     Miserliness is not a characteristic of the Muslim

§     Manners of the visitor:

1.  Knocking on the door gently

2.  Taking permission before entering

3.  Beginning with As-Salaam

4.  Asking for permission three times and then leaving if not          granted

5.  Mentioning your name

6.  Not peeking inside

7.  Not standing directly in front of the door, rather to the side

8.  Not leaving without the host’s permission

9.  Sitting in the place where you were asked to sit

10.                  Sitting wherever there is an empty spot, don’t take someone else’s seat

11.                  Making space for anyone when comes

12.                  Not sitting between two people without their permission

13.                  Not sitting in a way that is improper

14.                  Not conversing secretly when there is a third person present

15.                  Lowering your gaze and respecting their privacy

16.                  Not exposing what happened at the gathering if it was private or not proper

17.                  Showing satisfaction with whatever is presented to you from food or drink

18.                  Avoiding too much joking or argumentation

19.                  Understanding the rights of people at the gathering

20.                  Speaking in a proper manner

21.                  Being a good listener

22.                  Avoiding gatherings made for doing what is forbidden

23.                  Not leading the prayer without the host’s permission

24.                  Not doing any improper, unrefined behaviors

25.                  Remembering Allaah and saying salaah on the          Prophet (SAS) at the gathering

26.                  Not visiting repeatedly in a short time

27.                  Not making one’s stay too long

28.                  Choosing the right time to visit

29.                  Thanking your hosts and praying for them

30.                  Fixing any messes your children may have made

31.                  Not taking someone that your hosts would not want to visit with you

32.                  If visiting someone sick, keeping it short and giving a lot of positive words

33.                  Taking gifts with you

§     Manners of the Host:

The Prophet (SAS) said, “Indeed, your guests have rights upon you”

1.  Being generous and hospitable

2.  Showing happiness at their visit

3.  Serving them, and not asking them to help

4.  Using the opportunity to encourage and engage them to do righteous deeds

5.  Not leaving them alone at the door or by themselves for long time

6.  Not burdening oneself

7.  Respecting their privacy and lowering your gaze

8.  Not embarrassing them

9.  Walking guests to their cars or to the door